Evidence-Based Therapy for Lasting Change in New York City
Alyssa Deitchman, Ph.D.
Compassionate, research-driven therapy for the challenges of modern life.

Alyssa Deitchman, Ph.D.
Compassionate, research-driven therapy for the challenges of modern life.
My background includes both classical and modern training of psychoanalytic theory and practice. This type of therapy aims to extrapolate the root cause of any suffering, examine it together, and work through the complicated thoughts and feelings that arise in a safe and objective way.
Interpersonal dependency—the tendency to rely on others for guidance, reassurance, and self-worth—has been the focus of my clinical and scholarly work for over a decade. I trained under Dr. Robert Bornstein, a leading expert in the field, and conducted a meta-analysis on dependency and depression during my doctoral research. Today, I bring this expertise into my therapy practice and am writing Dependent: Why Our Need for Others Can Hurt Us—and How It Can Heal Us, the first book to bring this important concept to a wider audience.
You may look successful on the outside while silently battling anxiety, depression, or the weight of impossible expectations. Whether it’s feeling like an imposter, relying on others in ways that no longer serve you, or struggling to find balance in high-pressure roles, therapy can help you move toward relief and self-worth that isn’t tied to constant performance. My practice offers research-based, compassionate treatment tailored to the unique challenges of driven professionals and those navigating complex relationships.
I have a special interest in working with perfectionism, imposter syndrome, and over-achievement, particularly among high-level executives, consultants, software engineers, and finance professionals navigating the pressures of demanding careers. I also work particularly well with creatives. Many of my clients come from top schools and competitive environments, often shaped by critical or high-expectation parents, and carry an internalized belief that their worth is never enough. Even as they succeed on paper, they may feel like frauds waiting to be exposed, or find themselves trapped in a cycle of overworking, self-criticism, and burnout.
These struggles often come with loneliness—feeling misunderstood by peers or family who see only the achievements, not the anxiety and exhaustion behind them. Therapy offers a space to explore how these patterns took root, to understand the invisible pressures that drive them, and to begin separating self-worth from constant performance. My work helps clients move from a life defined by relentless standards to one that allows room for fulfillment, authenticity, and rest.
I treat depression and anxiety with empirically validated approaches such as behavioral activation and breathing techniques, while also creating a space of deep sensitivity and attunement. Depression and anxiety often occur together in ways that feel unbearable and are frequently misunderstood, leaving people isolated in their pain. My approach is humane and non-shaming—I work to contain and make sense of these difficult feelings so that clients feel supported, understood, and less alone as we move toward relief and healing.
Seeking therapy for the first time can be daunting. Reach out to me with any questions and we can schedule a complimentary 20-minute phone consultation. Immediate availability.
Open today | 09:00 am – 05:00 pm |
Conveniently located in the Flatiron District of New York City. Accessible from most MTA subway lines.
1115 Broadway, (116 Madison West)
New York, NY 10011
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Deitchman Psychological Services
1115 East Broadway, (116 Madison West), New York NY 10011
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